#140 | Flirting and Courtship Pt 1 - Vikings, Romans and Medieval Europeans

About This Episode

In this episode I explore the myth and history behind the courtship practices of a few select ancient societies.

Listen in to learn why courtship was known as the most dangerous pastime for the young Icelandic man, where the origins of the madonna/whore complex may have come from, the difference in courtship between Rome the Republic and Rome the Empire, how did Romans think about matrimony, what was the chivalric code of honor, the medieval origins of ‘happy wife, happy life’ and much more.

RESOURCES:

https://www.vikinganswerlady.com/

https://www.youtube.com/@JacksonCrawford

https://feminaeromanae.org/matrimonium.html

https://www.supersummary.com/the-art-of-love-ovid/summary/

TIMESTAMPS:

00:00 — Intro

02:18 — Pre-Christian views on relationships

04:05 — Influence and control dynamics

06:12 — Why it seemed appealing

08:20 — Marriage as a social structure

10:07 — Psychological roots of attraction

12:15 — The “third way” idea

14:12 — How things used to be different

16:08 — Consequences and exile

18:20 — Purpose beyond procreation

20:35 — Marriage tied to wealth and land

22:42 — Honour, loyalty, and core values

24:50 — Masculinity and Chivalric Code

27:05 — Understanding infatuation

28:55 — Final takeaways

30:22 — Outro

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