#130 | Father Hunger: Our Collective Longing for Dad
About This Episode
In this episode I am joined by Igor Vasilevitsky, a counselor, father, and exceptional writer on all things healing, masculinity, and femininity. He works with archetypes to help men and women heal and grow (he has helped me on my own journey).
We dive into the benevolent or divine father archetype and unpack why he is so important in our world. The father represents guidance towards what is good and it’s very clear how we as a society deeply long for our collective 'dad' to come home to us.
Listen in as we dissect the masculine archetypes, demystify the healthy father, discuss power and love, how anyone can learn to father themselves, and so much more.
Igor, as a father himself, has created an online community hub for men who are seeking to mature into the healthiest, most benevolent and generative versions of masculinity. You can find the group here: / 1599769308033077
Other ways to get in touch with Igor:
Book a session: https://taplink.cc/igor_healing
Find him and his writing on facebook: / igor.vasilevitsky
TIMESTAMPS:
00:00 — Intro & The Journey to Fatherhood
01:05 — Welcoming guest
02:06 — Defining Archetypes: Blueprints of the Soul
03:00 — The Evolution of Feminine Archetypes
03:45 — Cultural Conditioning vs. Inner Truth
06:40 — Healing the Father Wound
07:45 — Embodying the Benevolent Father Energy
10:00 — Creating Safety for Women & Children
11:05 — Defining True Masculine Presence
13:40 — Reading Igor’s Writing on the Father
14:35 — From Atheism to Divine Fatherhood
16:15 — Surrendering the Ego to Something Greater
18:40 — The Rise of the Feminine & The Missing Masculine
20:00 — Moving Past "Bad Dad" Tropes & Misandry
21:00 — The Universal Longing for a Father
22:30 — Expressing Anger at the Absent Father
24:10 — Developing an Inner Moral Compass
24:55 — The Tyrant vs. The Nice Guy
26:15 — Shadow Work & Reclaiming Power
27:35 — Spiritual Atheism & The Narcissistic Ego
29:20 — Fathering Yourself vs. Being Run by Impulses
29:50 — Example: How the Benevolent Father Handles Anxiety
32:00 — Replacing Shame with Benevolent Guidance
34:05 — The NFL Statistic: Fathers & Success
34:40 — The King Archetype Defined
35:40 — King vs. Father: The Difference
37:45 — Developmental Paths: Lover vs. Warrior Boys
39:10 — Why We Need Guardrails
42:25 — The Purpose of the Warrior Archetype
44:40 — Why Boys Need Duality (Good vs. Bad)
46:25 — The Magician Archetype: The Alchemist
47:30 — The Shadow Magician: Intellectualization
48:40 — Example: Shaping Relational Reality
52:00 — The Lover Archetype & The Heart
53:35 — The Danger of Getting Lost in Emotion
56:00 — The Mother Wound & Failure to Launch
57:00 — Rites of Passage & Cutting the Cord
59:20 — The Benevolent Father Course Details
01:04:23 — final thoughts/Outro
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