#106 | How Can We Make Marriage Great Again?
About This Episode
In this episode I sat down with Shah from his ‘This is Shah’ channel - https://www.youtube.com/@thisisshah
We dove into why the divorce rate is so high and what’s happening with modern dating and relating? Shah is extremely knowledgeable about family law and the court systems and we have an extensive conversation about dowry and bride price systems from the past.
Listen in to learn about whether the dowry has wisdom we could implement today, why caricatures of men and women are shaping modern dating dilemmas, Barbies and Bugattis, whether Andrew Tate would become monogamous if he was presented with a dowry, what the purpose of a prenup is and why it began, what the three stages of relating are based on David Deida’s work are, which stage are we in now, how we can define actually love? And so much more.
Such a great conversation with Shah, enjoy.
TIMESTAMPS:
00:00 - 00:30 Episode Trailer and Intro
00:30 - 01:39 Episode Overview and 'This is Shah' Introduction
01:39 - 03:40 Who is 'This is Shah'
03:40 - 04:44 Is a dowry a sacrifice?
04:44 - 06:59 Is a dowry tantamount to buying someone
06:59 - 09:33 Bride price is a compensation for labour value lost by the bride's family
09:33 - 10:35 Why did we move from bride price to dowry
10:35 - 12:44 When did people start hating dowry and bride price rituals
12:44 - 14:53 Did feminism start because men stopped paying dowries?
14:53 - 17:25 'You're a high status man if you can manage a housewife'
17:25 - 19:11 Courtly love and romance used to be separate from marriage
19:11 - 21:16 Love means something different to almost everyone
21:16 - 22:36 Alex and Leila Hormozi's relationship
22:36 - 23:54 What is love?
23:54 - 25:16 Dowry payments are much like child support payments
25:16 - 28:08 Why prenups are funny to me
28:08 - 29:29 The three stages of relating
29:29 - 32:05 Andrew Tate is the male version of The Barbie ideal
32:05 - 32:46 What is the number one thing that any woman wants
32:46 - 35:19 The Quiet Man
35:19 - 37:09 The second stage of relating
37:09 - 39:45 Dowry societies see fewer divorces than bride price societies
39:45 - 41:50 Society has abandoned initiations
41:50 - 43:46 Does being religious reduce divorce rates?
43:46 - 47:20 Your upbringing determines your choice of romantic partners
47:20 - 48:30 Did no-fault divorce make it too easy to separate
48:30 - 52:03 Did industrialism ruin it for women
52:03 - 53:57 Why I believe hooking up is bad for you
53:57 - 55:50 What do you bring to the table?
55:50 - 58:26 What is a good romantic scenario when two people meet
58:26 - 01:01:50 Look at their credit report before getting married
01:01:50 - 01:02:48 How to really lower divorce rates
01:02:48 - 01:05:28 The only good thing about red pill
01:05:28 - 01:06:12 The Romance game
01:06:12 - 01:07:04 The hedonism wall
01:07:04 - 01:12:21 Can women stick with you when you have nothing
01:12:21 - 01:13:18 Is income separate from attraction
01:13:18 - 01:17:35 Are there other men besides Nice guys and Bad boys
01:17:35 - 01:21:09 What is missing from how we behave these days?
01:21:09 - 01:23:35 My take on how to change the world of dating
01:23:35 - 01:26:37 how would I get Andrew Tate to be monogamous
01:26:37 - 01:28:40 Beauty that inspires action in a man
01:28:40 - 01:29:45 The one point men should take from this conversation
01:29:45 - 01:30:49 Key takeaways for women
01:30:49 - 01:31:27 Outro
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