#108 | The Missing Piece Behind the ‘Mental Load’ Debate Pt 2 - Modernization

About This Episode

I land the ‘mental load’ conversation in this episode. This is part 2 of a two part exploration.

In this episode I break down why the idea of ‘mental load’ takes away from our biological inclinations as men and women. The truth is there is no such thing as invisible labor & visible labor. There is men’s labor and women’s labor and we’ve lost sight of that as a society due to industrialization and modernization.

Listen in to learn about how the sacred separation between men and women got lost, what would happen if boys were on an equal playing field with girls, why there is no such thing as 50/50 in relationships, how the idea of ‘mental load’ is actually extremely sexist, and more.

I reference Mary Harrington, author of Feminism Against Progress & her recent writing via her substack, the reactionary feminist.

TIMESTAMPS:

00:00 - 00:30 Episode Trailer And Intro

00:30 - 01:06 I'm finally back home

01:06 - 03:02 Should men be doing 50% of household labor

03:02 - 06:37 What is Mental Load?

06:37 - 07:42 Feminism against progress

07:42 - 09:21 Stop treating men like hairy women

09:21 - 10:43 Does childbirth expand sex differences

10:43 - 13:19 Did modernization create sexist or genderless roles

13:19 - 15:15 We've been helping girls at the cost of boys

15:15 - 17:20 Are women fulfilled

17:20 - 19:22 Gender used to be vernacular

19:22 - 20:50 The importance of preserving same-sex spaces

20:50 - 23:01 Are men and women different?

23:01 - 24:58 Why doesn't the Mental Load conversation land?

24:58 - 27:44 Men don't fit in to women's spaces

27:44 - 29:28 Women just want to feel safe

29:28 - 30:40 Final thoughts and key takeaways

30:40 - 31:19 Outro
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