#136 | What’s Missing in the Marriage Discourse?
About This Episode
In this episode I explored the duality of patrimony and matrimony. While we barely discuss matrimony in our culture, we definitely don't think about patrimony. Our dismissal of patrimony's importance in sustaining a healthy society is one of the reason's we are unraveling.
Listen in as I draw on myth, tribal wisdom, and an exploration of the meanings of patrimony and matrimony and how they work together.
Referenced in this episode is Stephen Jenkinson's book, Matrimony - Ritual, Culture, and the Heart's Work: https://orphanwisdom.com/store/matrimony/
I wrote a short piece about this in my newsletter last week: https://anyashakh.substack.com/p/patrimony-matrimonys-other-half.
TIMESTAMPS:
00:00 — Intro: Matrimony vs. Patrimony
02:05 — The Breakdown of Modern Marriage
02:48 — The House Metaphor: Wiring vs. Warmth
04:34 — Home as the Amniotic Sea of Human
06:55 — Ancient Tribes & Genetic Diversity
08:45 — The Role of Elders in Matchmaking
10:28 — The Grimm Brothers & The Devil's Three Hairs
12:15 — The Danger of Hyper-Romanticizing Life
13:39 — Patrimony as the Aisle of Matrimony
16:16 — The Mother Work of Matrimony & Lost Traditions
20:00— Outro
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