#95 | Why ‘Be Vulnerable’ Fails Men

About This Episode

This episode is about the power of men. I love the word power because in contrast to control or force, it means to influence others towards a greater good. This is who most men are - givers dedicated to the greater good.

I get into why the ‘be vulnerable’ or ‘share your feelings’ narratives in the media misunderstand who men are at their core. Listen in to learn about why acknowledgment matters to men, masculine identity versus the ideology that’s been painted, the deep emotional wound men carry, the three most important things to men, elder role models, the Orthodox Church, and ultimately the difference in how men and women relate to relationships.

Timestamps:

00:00 - 00:35 Episode trailer

00:35 - 01:10 Overview of Today's episode

01:10 - 03:29 What do men and boys really struggle with?

03:29 - 05:01 Do women actually want emotional men?

05:01 - 07:20 Let your man find and fight ‘his battle’

07:20 - 08:59 Every man longs for a battle to fight

08:59 - 10:05 Men need to do this before focusing on relationships

10:05 - 11:15 Are men really toxic?

11:15 - 12:39 Identity beats Ideology any day

12:39 - 14:27 Why 95% of bystander rescuers are men

14:27 - 16:46 Why is acknowledgement important for men?

16:46 - 17:59 The effects of boys missing connection to fathers

17:59 - 18:45 Why doesn't conventional therapy work for men?

18:45 - 21:42 Is appealing to identity more important than ideology?

21:42 - 22:49 What do men really need?

22:49 - 25:27 How the Orthodox church is empowering men

25:27 - 26:21 Organizations doing fantastic work for men

26:21 - 26:59 Outro
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