#128 | The Evolutionary Psychology of Boys and Men
About This Episode
Boys and men are driven by a foundational fear that modern culture has forgotten about - the enemy. The inner drive that boys and men have is to defeat the enemy and keep us safe - this is one of the most noble things that exists in our world and yet it is ignored and misunderstood today.
In this episode I break down why boys are naturally drawn to competition, strategy fighting, and testing themselves against opposition. Based on Joyce Benenson’s book, ‘Warriors & Worriers’ I explain the natural skills and behaviors that boys have and why we should uplift and support them.
Listen in to learn about how boys brains function differently than girls, why boys communicate, how they play, why they are such great innovators, and much more.
Next week I will be diving into the psychology of girls.
TIMESTAMPS:
00:00 — INTRO; Fluid Intelligence Teaser
01:33 — Joyce Benenson & "Warriors and Worriers"
02:54 — The Core Male Fear: The Enemy
05:32 — Rough & Tumble Play Psychology
06:00 — The Balloon Study: Hitting vs. Hugging
07:58 — The Empathy Study: Brains & Electric Shocks
10:32 — Cultural Critique: Decriminalization & Safety
12:28 — "Killing the Dragon" & Securing the Family
14:38 — Peak Fluid Intelligence (Ages 18-25)
16:32 — Single Focus vs. Relationship Connection
18:19 — The Street Crossing Analogy
19:57 — The Education Crisis for Boys
21:33 — Male Communication Styles & Directives
22:54 — Conflict Resolution: The Valuable Relationship Hypothesis
27:07 — Outro
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