#132 | The Blind Spot in Modern Dating - Why People Struggle
About This Episode
In this episode I highlight the pervasive heteropessimism that exists in the culture today (on both sides of the aisle). Inspired by this recent article written by Mana Afsari - https://thepointmag.com/examined-life...
I dive into one of the blind spots I see happening in dating: categorical thinking. I wrote a short piece about this - find it here: https://anyashakh.substack.com/p/the-...
Listen in to learn about what categorical thinking looks like and how we’ve decoupled humanity from the opposite sex. I also link this idea to the historical example of what was happening in the Weimer Republic in Germany 100 years ago and how today's struggles can be an analogue to that time (inspired by https://www.louiseperry.co.uk/p/weima...)
One thread I’d like to continue to pull on is how to separate romantic love and pair bonding. Romantic feelings won't get people to their gold wedding - this is an important piece of the conversation.
TIMESTAMPS:
00:00 — Intro
02:18 — Setting up the main idea
04:42 — Where people misunderstand this
07:05 — The emotional dynamic at play
09:29 — What this reveals about relationships
11:53 — The deeper psychological layer
14:17 — How this pattern shows up in real life
16:41 — Why most people miss this
19:06 — The consequence of ignoring it
21:30 — What actually changes things
23:54 — The core takeaway
26:25 — Outro
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